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Can anything serious come from Tinder? Yes, I have met couples who met on Tinder and other social media platforms. Tinder is big and full of all sorts of people; if you keep swiping, you will definitely get what you are looking for. This post will talk about the do’s and don’ts of Tinder dating.
Do …
1. Complete your profile
You will miss out on matches if you leave your bio blank. People need to know something about you; do not wait for them to ask ‘Why are you on Tinder?’ Save your time by making your goals known before someone swipes right.
2. Ask the right questions
People who do not want questions are mostly looking for sexual flings. If you are looking for something solid, you must ask the right questions. These questions can help you filter out what you do not want after matching:
- What is your real name?
- What is your real age?
- Where do you stay/come from?
- What is your level of education?
- What is your career/profession?
- What is your marital status?
- What is your Tinder goal?
- How many children do you have?
3. Make your goals clear
Whether you are looking for a fling or a committed relationship, ensure that you state your Tinder goals early. This will save you from the heartache of getting attached to someone you cannot date or meet. If you are looking for a hookup for money or sex, state it openly. If you want just a meetup over coffee or drinks, state it clearly at the onset. If you keep swiping, you will eventually meet your match.
4. Open your eyes for cheats
The other day a friend was telling me that it is better to marry someone you know because you are sure they do not do rimming at night. Well, cheats are everywhere and the truth is that they do not have a label. Tinder is an entire community with good and bad people. The last thing you want is to lose your valuables to someone you met on Tinder, or lose your life to a Tinder date. Ask someone questions about who they are, where they stay, where they went to school, where they work, and what they want. This will save you from an awkward situation.
5. Read that bio before matching
People on Tinder are looking for different things. There is a married man who is looking for a side dish, a catfish looking for the next meal, and someone looking for a serious marriage partner. Most people have written it on their bios, but others have not. A half-naked woman with eggplants and dollar signs is a hooker, and a man in boxers and showing six-packs with dollar signs on bio is a gigolo. If you are looking for flings, you can match empty bios. If you are looking for a serious life partner, match only people with a complete bio that states their Tinder goals.
Don’t …
6. Lie to match
Are you married and hoping to become someone’s sponsor? Tinder is so big, you will definitely meet the person you are looking for. Be especially open to disclosing information such as:
- Currently married
- Single parent
- Unemployed
- In the pleasure business
- HIV positive
- Strict religious views
The majority of people will unmatch if you have this kind of profile. To ensure that you don’t waste time in useless chats, reveal this information as soon as possible and unmatch if the other person is not interested.
7. Exchange numbers before agreeing
A friend went to look for a wife on Tinder. All the women he met were looking for someone to rescue them from their financial troubles. Unfortunately, he used to set dates with whoever he matched with. In the process, he lost an expensive phone to a ‘Daystar graduate’. Other women threatened to kill themselves if he didn’t meet them again. Frustrated and scared, he uninstalled the app to try traditional dating.
Getting the right match on Tinder is easy as long as you go with an open mind. Get to know the other person first before giving out your number. People can track you down, steal from you, or even kill you. Most importantly, do not bring Tinder dates home without getting to know them first. There are too many homicides, you do not want to be the next victim.
8. Tell them what you are looking for
The moment you tell a desperate person what you are looking for, they will adjust to that thing. Instead of telling people what you are looking for, ask the right questions and pick out from the answers whether they are the right person.
For instance, asking someone to tell you their marital status will give you answers like ‘I am single, married, in a troubled marriage, divorced, widowed’ among others. This is better than telling someone you do not want a married man.
If you ask someone what they do for a living, you will be able to catch a cheat who is looking for a sponsor or cougar for upkeep. Remember, ‘self-employed’ is not a career name. There is something that the person does every day to generate money, and it cannot be ‘self-employment’.
9. Trust blindly
Just because someone said they are a graduate or a business owner does not mean they are. Take your time to get more information from them before meeting or exchanging numbers. If possible, find someone who went to the same school, works at the same company, or goes to the same church for more information. Avoid people who give inconsistent information or rush to connect on Whatsapp.
Final word …
Tinder is a platform with all sorts of people – runaway husbands who want someone to waste the extra energy on, young girls looking for someone to rescue them from their financial troubles, a shy guy who hopes to meet a wife, the traveler who wants to meet new people in the area, and serious women who need a worthy mate. If you know what to do, you will definitely get what you want from the Tinder dating app.
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